Judgey Mommy

“See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ.”

Colossians 2:8


“If her baby is a year old and still waking up, it is her fault as a mom.”
“You haven’t gotten on a wait list for preschool yet? You will never get in.”
“I didn’t want my baby to come out drugged so I didn’t have an epidural.”
“Anyone who co-sleeps is putting their baby above their marriage.”

Wow. These are just a few of the quotes that I have overheard from other moms in the past month at baby classes and on the playground. Whether or not you agree with the statements is not the point.

It is the fact that parenting has become, (or perhaps has always been), competitive and judgmental.

One of the reasons I felt called to earn my certification as a Baby Planner is to be able to learn about each family’s lifestyles and beliefs and then present the best options personalized to their uniqueness and allow them to make choices that will best suit their vision for parenting. Not only did I feel overwhelmed by the plethora of information and products while I was pregnant, but even more so by the wide range of advice I was given.

The role of a Certified Baby Planner is not to judge your choices, but to make sure that you are educated on your options and then feel relaxed in your parenting and confident enough to not second guess your family’s style-even when others mock or put down your ways. As long as your baby’s best interest is at the center of your educated and prayerful decision-making, you are sure to be on the right track.

Living like Christ means standing for the truth that is found in God’s Word, being confident in righteous living, yet not gossiping or cutting others down. When I am tempted to judge or “talk about” another mother, I practice taking a moment to think about WHY I feel the need to do so.

Quite honestly for me, it is usually out of covetousness. Maybe I want to criticize one for hiring babysitters on a whim or buying lavish baby clothes because part of me wishes I could too! Perhaps for you it “helps” you to feel better about yourself to cut others down, or draws you “closer” to a new friend to bash another.

You have to get real with yourself to be molded daily into the image of Christ.

It’s hard.

I hate admitting my ugliness, but through humble defeat, the Lord makes us glorious and mighty in Him.

Let’s support each other as moms. Grab the door next time you see a mom struggling with a stroller. Give a sympathetic smile when the parent next to you in a restaurant has a baby who won’t stop crying- it might just cancel out all of the glares she is receiving. Most importantly, tell a friend that she is doing a great job and is a wonderful mother. I guarantee you she will cry… due to appreciation. 

Liam Splash PadDon’t judge me! I promise I can explain!

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